No matter how repulsive majority of the public
think incest it, it is troubling that a lot of cases
involving what is now termed ‘Genetic sexual
attraction’ surface everyday
telly and even on the grapevine.
father”Every day”, says an expert, “children from
broken homes and polygamous homes are always
seeking for their biological family. And it is a
dangerous trend as quite a number of these ‘lost
and found’ relatives may find themselves drawn
sexually towards a close relative mothers, sons,
fathers and daughters, brothers and sisters …”.
Three years ago, Constance, a divorcee finally
remarried and relocated outside Lagos. Her only
daughter from her first marriage refused to be up-
rooted from the school where she was doing so
well and opted to live with her father. “I was dead
against her living with a man who didn’t even
bother to know what was happening in his
daughter’s life after we split”, Constance explained.
“She was then 17 and I didn’t discourage her from
asking him if she could live with him until she
finished secondary school. I was sure he would
refuse and I would gleefully tell her `I told you so,’.
I was greatly surprised when he not only agreed
for Tope (her daughter) to live with him, he
promised to assume full responsibility for her
education. By then, he was doing very well in
business and looked fairly comfortable financially.
“It was a relief in a way as I didn’t want my new
husband to have the problem of a step-daughter
on his hands. Tope flourished in her father’s care
and it was obvious he wanted to make up for lost
time. Tope was introduced to other family
members and it was clear that father and daughter
hit it off. He lavished gifts on her and she became
really sophisticated over the years.
Then her father’s wife blew the whistle on both of
them. One of the children, a lad of 16 had picked
up Tope’s mobile to call one of his friends. When
he was through, a text message came in for Tope
and he accessed it out of curiosity. Then he
noticed other messages from their father’s mobile,
read them then promptly handed the phone to his
mother. The messages she read made her toes
curl. It was obvious Tope was having sex with her
father through the series of text messages he sent
to her.
“I felt sick to my stomach. By this time,Tope was
at the university and her stepmother had kicked
her out. She now lives on campus and told me she
would soon relocate to a one-room apartment
she’d found near her university. Her dad paid for
everything and she’s refused to severe relationship
with him. She said the sex thing was a one-off and
they were both drunk at the time.
When I reminded her of what I’d read from the text
messages her had sent to her, she clamped up.
My current husband had warned me to be really
careful here or I would be the enemy. But how can
I be `careful’ about an incestuous relationship?
True it happens all of the time, but should you
wish it on your worst enemy …”
Analysing incestuous relationships further, the
expert said: “Whilst trying to analyse the rationale
behind this abnormal behaviour, psychologists
have pinned the name GSA – General Sexual
Attraction on it. This affects parents and children
and brothers and sisters who are reunited after a
long number of years. Normal taboos have not
been built up within the family, with the result that
there can be abnormal sexual attraction. Tolu’s
case is typical of the GSA epidemic where there
never was a normal father – daughter relationship.
“GSA is rare between people raised together in
early childhood, as most siblings have evolved to
prevent incest. Several factors may contribute to
GSA. People commonly rank faces similar to their
own as more attractive and trustworthy. Heredity
produces substantial physical resemblance
between close relatives. Shared interests and
personality traits are considered desirable in a
mate. In cases of parent – child attraction, the
parent may recognise traits of their sometime mate
in the child. Such reunions typically produce
complex emotions in all involved”.
Some years ago, there was a report that a brother
and sister couple in Germany were fighting
anti=incest laws. They grew up separately, met as
adults, and have had four children together. Not
long ago in far away Indiana, USA, Phil Bailey, a
26-year-old man, and his grandmother Pearl
Carter, 72, were reported to be trying to have a
surrogate baby after they’d started having regular
sex.
Makes you sick doesn’t it? Unfortunately, all over
the world, people like Tolu and her dad are forever
yielding to human weakness – it doesn’t make it
right or acceptable. Just sad.
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